So, you’re ready to plan your wedding. Amazing! Congrats! So so SO exciting! And I mean that from the bottom of my heart. However, let’s not be remiss. Planning a wedding is WORK. And a lot of it. There are a million decisions to be made, time consuming research to do, and money to spend. And when you’re spending that much money, you want to feel like you’re investing in the right areas for your big day. Time and time again I see couples making little (and big) mistakes. So, today, I want to share with you 5 avoidable wedding planning mistakes in an effort to help you avoid these pitfalls.
5 Avoidable Wedding Planning Mistakes
1) Not Hiring A Planner
Yes, your venue may come with a built-in planner, but this means something different at each venue. Hiring your own planner (even just for day-of coordination) has some major benefits. Not only does it ensure that your day will run smoothly, but your own coordinator will help keep all the other vendors on track and communicating well. Knowing that delivery times are confirmed, family members know where to be, and that your vision and best interest is at heart throughout your day is worth every penny.
Translation: Planners are worth their weight in gold. Hire one.
2) Deciding To Arrange Your Own Flowers
I have personally helped friends and family members arrange their own wedding flowers, and let me tell you… it’s WAY more work and time than you can imagine. You might think you are saving yourself a little money, but truthfully you are adding a lot of headaches to your planning process. Not only do you need to create the arrangements but you also need to find an area large enough to hold them (that is at the proper temperature) and then transport them to your venue(s). Even if you are thinking of “simple” table arrangements, I promise you, it will require a substantial amount of work. My recommendation: pay for a professional florist.
3) Cramming Too Much Into Your Day
It’s easy to get carried away when planning your wedding. There are sooooo many fun and unique ways to add to your celebration! It’s important to keep in mind that although your wedding may be an entire day – your ceremony and reception will only last a few hours. This means you are limited in what you choose to incorporate. So even though you may want to take photos at three separate locations around town, change your dress half way through the reception, greet each table personally, and have a sparkler exit (on top of all the normal wedding day formalities) – it’s just not always possible. As they say- there are only so many hours in the day. And, even if you are super(wo)man and you figure out how to cram it all in- the last thing you want to feel like at your wedding is overwhelmed and exhausted. Trust me. Keep it meaningful and simple.
4) Too Much Driving Time
This may seem like a no brainer, but I’ve seen so many couples choose locations that are an hour or more drive from one another. This opens yourself up to being at the mercy of the traffic gods of Southern California (insert scary music here). So do yourself (and your guests a favor) and make sure your ceremony and reception sites are as close together as possible. In a perfect world, your ceremony and reception will be at the same location. Less driving = Less headaches = More Fun!
5) Having Friends And Family Act As Vendors
This might be one of the biggest mistakes I see couples make. Maybe your aunt offered to be your day-of planner, or a friend offered to be your photographer- just because they have a nice camera. Don’t get me wrong, I love your mom/aunt/cousin/brother/neighbor, but they should be guests at your wedding, not vendors. I STRONGLY recommend you hire wedding professionals.
Additionally, it’s pretty damn hard to boss people around when you know them or are related to them. And, to ensure jobs get done correctly on a wedding day, it often requires a substantial amount of bossing. This is where a coordinator comes in handy because you don’t want to be put in a situation where you have to boss your mom/aunt/cousin/brother/neighbor around. It never ends well.
People offering to be your vendor is a very kind gesture, but in the end, it’s not worth it.
So there you have it. My top 5 avoidable wedding planning mistakes. I completely understand why brides and grooms might fall into these mistake traps. It’s most often about saving money. Whenever I feel myself getting worked up about spending lots of money (like on my own wedding day) I try to remember this quote. “The bitterness of poor quality remains long after the sweetness of low price is forgotten.” And that, my friends, is truth.