There is a lot of advice floating around the wedding industry. While this can be helpful because our community is full of amazingly knowledgeable professionals – it’s very easy to get caught up in what your “supposed to do” rather than focusing on what works for you and your individual goals.
One particular piece of advice given over and over – especially in the competitive wedding industry space – is to respond to inquiries as quickly as you can. I’ve heard this again and again and, from the very beginning of my business, I’ve subscribed to this protocol. The moment I got a new email notification on my phone, I would check it, and feel the overwhelming urge to respond as soon as possible – regardless what I was doing, or the time of day.
And if I didn’t respond immediately, guess what I felt? Guilt, anxiety, and stress. Sound familiar?
Over the last few years, I’ve felt overly connected to technology in general. My phone is never far from me, and I spend more time then I’d like to admit staring at that small screen. Couple that with all the time I have to spend on my laptop with emails, social media, editing, newsletters, accounting, and all the other business ownership tasks – and it’s easy to see how I was racking up the screentime.
It’s literally impossible for me to do my job without computer time – so I had to come up with a solution to reduce how much time I was spending on those screens. I was stumped on a solution for a long time, but one this was certain – I’m happier overall when I limit my social media time and exposure to technology.
So I did something radical.
I deleted email from my phone.
(insert gasps here)
Guess what happened? My business continued to thrive, my client list grew and I was overall a happier version of myself. All that time I was spending on my phone, checking email and obsessing over inquiries – I spent it instead, engaging in actual conversation with my friends and family. Then, when I was back at my desk, I was able to give my emails and my business my undivided attention.
It’s been a few months since I’ve ditched email on my phone and I can honestly say – I don’t miss it one bit! This simple change has allowed me to take back control, and prioritize my happiness.
Setting this boundary has been a huge growth opportunity for me. Maybe it would be helpful for you – maybe it wouldn’t. I encourage you to challenge yourself and try the advice that resonates with you and then leave the rest behind.
Remember, you’re the boss of not only your business but your life.